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out_thereI just got back home. I didn't end up leaving the house until six, and then by the time I got to the city, and stood in line to register it was 7 or 8pm. So, I grabbed a roll at Subway, took out some cash, and had some fun. Basically, the crowd was inthe bar downstairs singing kareoke. After two Cruisers (at $3.50, that's a good priced bar), I sang three times. Once to Three Doors Down's Kryptonite (ooh, so hard to sing, especially when you're puffed from being on the dance floor), Cher's If I Could turn Back Time (which I didn't remember as well as I thought I did) and Van Morrisen's Moondance (which I can sing fairly well anyway, and even if I missed my timing/notes I was having too much fun to care!).
So, I had a lot of fun dancing and drinking. Especial thanks go to the redhead wearing the plaid, schoolgirl miniskirt with side splits, because, *raowr*. That's what I call eye candy!
Only downside was a guy trying to close/slow dance with me. As a little pointer for people out there, these things do not impress me:
- Telling me I'm a lot of fun
- Saying that I'm beautiful and/or sexy
- Then trying to dance close, saying I have "confidence issues" when I try to get you to move back
- Saying that I need someone to help work me through said "confidence issues" and assuming it'll be you.
First off, I don't have confidence issues, so much as personal space issues. I would say that I'm a physically affectionate person, but it's only to a very limited number of people. I have to have known you for some time (or feel really comfortable with you) to be physically demonstrative, but once I've reached that level of intimacy with you, I'm generally that touchy-feely from then on.
Secondly, my "confidence issues" are not what's stopping me from running into your arms. It's my lack of interest. I'm not telling you this to your face because, frankly, I couldn't be stuffed with the aggression. I'm being nice and giving you an easy out, so take it for what it is. I don't want to dance with you because I have no interest in dancing with you. It's pretty simple.
Thirdly, I generally don't like to close/slow dance with people. I like being able to move on the dancefloor, to go with the beat as I hear it, not to be stuck to someone else's timing. In fact, the only time I've liked slow dancing, was with sleepovers with Katie, and that was not dancing so much swaying together to the music, and was basically extended foreplay.
Fourthly, do you have any idea how arrogant and unappealing it is for someone who's just met me to instantly analyse my issues? If I had trouble, I'd work it out with someone I knew and trusted, and that's not you, okay? If you're that talented at working throught people's issues, go be a shrink.
And, finally, there's no way in hell that I'm falling for those type of lines twice in one lifetime. The first time I had the excuse of being totally plastered (enough so that my memories of that night are sketchy at best) but it was still a disappointment.
What I really hate about this is that some people are physically confident of their own body. They have no trouble showing it off, and feel very at home within their own skin. That's not really me, well, maybe when dancing, but it's definately not me when it comes to sexuality. So, guys spouting off this crap tend to undermine my confidence and it bugs me. I'm not an incredibly needy, unassertive person, and if I have reservations when it comes to being intimate with people, I don't see how it's any of your concern. Seriously, it's not harming anyone else, and it doesn't particularly harm me, so even if I have "issues" I don't think it's such a big deal.
Regardless of that rant, I really did have a good time and I'm looking forward to tomorrow. Since I have to go to work, I'll stop in during the morning. Then I've got a lunch with the other QC Newbies, then a session on "Riotgrrl culture and queer issues", then a Bi-friendly/supportive dinner, and then 80's disco bowling.
Hmmm... For the bowling, it says to come dressed in 80's gear. I don't think I have anything that really works. I might just wear dark slacks, and my hot pink top (it's a bit tight, and it's got one of those halterneck/keyhole necks going on, so I haven't worn it in ages) and see if I can buy a hot pink scrunchy. Then, I can put my hair in a high ponytail, and I've sorta got the idea going. What do you guys think? Are there any other trends that I should be using? Make-up, etc?
So, I had a lot of fun dancing and drinking. Especial thanks go to the redhead wearing the plaid, schoolgirl miniskirt with side splits, because, *raowr*. That's what I call eye candy!
Only downside was a guy trying to close/slow dance with me. As a little pointer for people out there, these things do not impress me:
- Telling me I'm a lot of fun
- Saying that I'm beautiful and/or sexy
- Then trying to dance close, saying I have "confidence issues" when I try to get you to move back
- Saying that I need someone to help work me through said "confidence issues" and assuming it'll be you.
First off, I don't have confidence issues, so much as personal space issues. I would say that I'm a physically affectionate person, but it's only to a very limited number of people. I have to have known you for some time (or feel really comfortable with you) to be physically demonstrative, but once I've reached that level of intimacy with you, I'm generally that touchy-feely from then on.
Secondly, my "confidence issues" are not what's stopping me from running into your arms. It's my lack of interest. I'm not telling you this to your face because, frankly, I couldn't be stuffed with the aggression. I'm being nice and giving you an easy out, so take it for what it is. I don't want to dance with you because I have no interest in dancing with you. It's pretty simple.
Thirdly, I generally don't like to close/slow dance with people. I like being able to move on the dancefloor, to go with the beat as I hear it, not to be stuck to someone else's timing. In fact, the only time I've liked slow dancing, was with sleepovers with Katie, and that was not dancing so much swaying together to the music, and was basically extended foreplay.
Fourthly, do you have any idea how arrogant and unappealing it is for someone who's just met me to instantly analyse my issues? If I had trouble, I'd work it out with someone I knew and trusted, and that's not you, okay? If you're that talented at working throught people's issues, go be a shrink.
And, finally, there's no way in hell that I'm falling for those type of lines twice in one lifetime. The first time I had the excuse of being totally plastered (enough so that my memories of that night are sketchy at best) but it was still a disappointment.
What I really hate about this is that some people are physically confident of their own body. They have no trouble showing it off, and feel very at home within their own skin. That's not really me, well, maybe when dancing, but it's definately not me when it comes to sexuality. So, guys spouting off this crap tend to undermine my confidence and it bugs me. I'm not an incredibly needy, unassertive person, and if I have reservations when it comes to being intimate with people, I don't see how it's any of your concern. Seriously, it's not harming anyone else, and it doesn't particularly harm me, so even if I have "issues" I don't think it's such a big deal.
Regardless of that rant, I really did have a good time and I'm looking forward to tomorrow. Since I have to go to work, I'll stop in during the morning. Then I've got a lunch with the other QC Newbies, then a session on "Riotgrrl culture and queer issues", then a Bi-friendly/supportive dinner, and then 80's disco bowling.
Hmmm... For the bowling, it says to come dressed in 80's gear. I don't think I have anything that really works. I might just wear dark slacks, and my hot pink top (it's a bit tight, and it's got one of those halterneck/keyhole necks going on, so I haven't worn it in ages) and see if I can buy a hot pink scrunchy. Then, I can put my hair in a high ponytail, and I've sorta got the idea going. What do you guys think? Are there any other trends that I should be using? Make-up, etc?
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Date: 2003-07-07 05:36 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2003-07-07 09:21 pm (UTC)Thanks. Nice to have a second opinion. I sometimes wonder if it's just me that reacts defensively, or if they are jerks. *g* Ah, the thrill of being right!
>Glad you didn't let it spoil you night. *g
Heh. Not that you'd be able to tell from the way I bitched on LJ.
*grrr* Stupid Macs. I need to go find an IBM to post to LJ. Taking 10 minutes to reply to a comment because of dodgy buttons is just ridiculous. *rolls eyes*
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Date: 2003-07-08 04:36 am (UTC)