Ignorance is bliss
Oct. 17th, 2003 05:55 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
out_thereFandom remains a cheery and happy place for me to play because my general motto in life is "Mind Your Own Business". That particular gem was told to my mum by her granddad, as the secret for living a long and happy life. I think it's true.
Personally, my immediate natural reaction when I hear about disagreements is to ask both parties about it, to try to get as much information as I can about the situation and make up my own mind. (Or, as school friends labelled it, "I'm a gossip.") But, if I follow the rule, I don't. I don't go out of my way to ask people. If a close friend wants to talk to me, fine, I'll be supportive, but I'm not stepping into the middle of it.
Why? Because it's not my concern. If the issue wasn't caused by my actions, if it's not something that directly (and by directly, I mean something that has a major impact on my life or something that can be solved by my actions alone) related to me, I shouldn't be getting involved. All that happens is that other people relieve their stress on me and get me upset about something totally out of my control.
My life is a lot happier and I'm far more content if I don't know about these things. I didn't cause it, I can't fix it and I don't need to know about everyone else's stresses. This is why I'm generally the last to know everything. And generally, I'm okay with that. Being kinda uninformed is the price I pay for my happiness, but it's true that ignorance is bliss.
Having said that, I have no idea what the SV kerfluffle is and, honestly? Not too intrigued in finding out. If anyone on my friends list is involved, consider mental hugs sent your way, but since I know so little of it, I seriously doubt any of you were in the thick of it.
I am however, the last one in the office. It's so quiet, and I'm still buzzed on caffeine, so I might see if I can get anything done.
Personally, my immediate natural reaction when I hear about disagreements is to ask both parties about it, to try to get as much information as I can about the situation and make up my own mind. (Or, as school friends labelled it, "I'm a gossip.") But, if I follow the rule, I don't. I don't go out of my way to ask people. If a close friend wants to talk to me, fine, I'll be supportive, but I'm not stepping into the middle of it.
Why? Because it's not my concern. If the issue wasn't caused by my actions, if it's not something that directly (and by directly, I mean something that has a major impact on my life or something that can be solved by my actions alone) related to me, I shouldn't be getting involved. All that happens is that other people relieve their stress on me and get me upset about something totally out of my control.
My life is a lot happier and I'm far more content if I don't know about these things. I didn't cause it, I can't fix it and I don't need to know about everyone else's stresses. This is why I'm generally the last to know everything. And generally, I'm okay with that. Being kinda uninformed is the price I pay for my happiness, but it's true that ignorance is bliss.
Having said that, I have no idea what the SV kerfluffle is and, honestly? Not too intrigued in finding out. If anyone on my friends list is involved, consider mental hugs sent your way, but since I know so little of it, I seriously doubt any of you were in the thick of it.
I am however, the last one in the office. It's so quiet, and I'm still buzzed on caffeine, so I might see if I can get anything done.
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Date: 2003-10-17 02:26 am (UTC)Nothing is worth getting worked up about.
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Date: 2003-10-17 05:45 am (UTC)