Even though I'm a sucker for all kinds of Ianto-angst, the less dark/angsty/desperate version AKA 'Your Ianto' (*tries desperately to get this picture of a very cute Ianto with a ribbon around his neck and post it notes with "(Intellectual) Property of Annie" plastered on several parts of his body out of her head*) was growing on me the more I read about him.
"He never felt like he fitted." is definitely going to be part of the little archivist in my own head.
And thanks for the explanation about the whole mynon-thingy - I wouldn't have had a clue otherwise :)