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Dec. 21st, 2003
Christmas GIP
Dec. 21st, 2003 10:01 pmWell, I finally got ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
ahab99's icon up. Isn't it perfect? You have no idea how much I literally cackled and clapped my hands in joy when I saw it.
Casey and Dan in red and green! Slashy carol lyrics! There's no way I could be happier. *g*
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While I'm showing off Chrissy gifts, I also got my WW SS gifts:
ahab99's icon up. Isn't it perfect? You have no idea how much I literally cackled and clapped my hands in joy when I saw it.Casey and Dan in red and green! Slashy carol lyrics! There's no way I could be happier. *g*
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While I'm showing off Chrissy gifts, I also got my WW SS gifts:
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Dec. 21st, 2003 11:35 pmJust watched a Xander vid ("Some Fantastic"... man, that's a great canon Xander vid) and got to thinking about relationships, specifically Xander/Anya and Willow/Tara. Now, I've always been more of a supporter for W/T. I *liked* them as a pair, and they always seemed so in love.
X/A originally struck me a great example of settling for the best you can get. Neither of them was perfect for the other person, both had flaws which drove the other nuts. It took me until... S6, I think, to really believe they were in love, not just sexually compatable and convenient. Now, W/T, I never had any trouble believing they were in love with each other, that to a great extent their lives revolved around the other. It was obvious.
The interesting thing is that in the long term, W/T was very unhealthy for both of them. The relationship did some damage and encouraged the insecurities that were already there, while making it appear that they were far healthier than they were. X/A wasn't perfect, wasn't that head-over-heels, romantic, starry-eyed love, but it was good for both of them. Both Xander and Anya grew as people, became better people through experiencing that relationship.
Hmmm... I'm just thinking vaguely about imperfect relationships being healthier for you in the long run. It's the ones that appear perfect that do the unseen damage. (I think that deep-down, I agree with this, the same way that deep-down, I never trust people who are too polite and too nice. It's that belief in equality and balance; as nice as someone is, they have the same capacity to be nasty.) My brain wants to link this thought to Dan/Casey, but I'm honestly not sure how.
X/A originally struck me a great example of settling for the best you can get. Neither of them was perfect for the other person, both had flaws which drove the other nuts. It took me until... S6, I think, to really believe they were in love, not just sexually compatable and convenient. Now, W/T, I never had any trouble believing they were in love with each other, that to a great extent their lives revolved around the other. It was obvious.
The interesting thing is that in the long term, W/T was very unhealthy for both of them. The relationship did some damage and encouraged the insecurities that were already there, while making it appear that they were far healthier than they were. X/A wasn't perfect, wasn't that head-over-heels, romantic, starry-eyed love, but it was good for both of them. Both Xander and Anya grew as people, became better people through experiencing that relationship.
Hmmm... I'm just thinking vaguely about imperfect relationships being healthier for you in the long run. It's the ones that appear perfect that do the unseen damage. (I think that deep-down, I agree with this, the same way that deep-down, I never trust people who are too polite and too nice. It's that belief in equality and balance; as nice as someone is, they have the same capacity to be nasty.) My brain wants to link this thought to Dan/Casey, but I'm honestly not sure how.